One of the most effective ways to heal from depression is to set small, attainable goals that you can work toward each day. When life feels like a never-ending cycle of sameness, and you find yourself wondering, “What’s the point?,” having even the smallest goal can help restore a sense of meaning and purpose.
I’ve noticed that people who struggle with depression often share this common feeling of emptiness, a lack of motivation, and the thought that nothing really matters. But here’s something I’ve learned on my own journey over the past 90 days: focusing on achievable goals can transform that mindset.
As someone who holds space for others working through their own mental health struggles, I’ve realized how easy it is to forget about my own needs. A few weeks ago, my back went out, and the pain forced me to confront a hard truth: I had been neglecting my own well-being. Sitting all day, helping others, but not giving attention to my physical health, made me realize I wasn’t holding space for myself.
This wake-up call pushed me to make a change. I committed to walking daily, stretching, and doing mobility exercises. These small goals might seem insignificant, but they’ve completely shifted how I approach each day. They remind me that there is purpose in showing up for myself.
One of the mottos I live by is “eat the frog first.” While I don’t advocate for frog-eating, the metaphor holds true: tackle the task you resist the most first thing in the morning. Doing this sets the tone for the rest of the day, giving you a sense of accomplishment right from the start.
If you’re on a journey of healing—whether it’s mental, physical, or both—I hope this resonates with you. Start small. Set achievable goals, and let them remind you that every day has meaning. There is purpose in your progress, no matter how gradual it may seem.
About the Author
Jackie Caputo is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who provides therapy in Woodland Hills, CA. She also provides online therapy in California to individuals throughout the state.